I have never seen a woman in process get free without first getting angry. She must anger, and she may need to rage, the rage is especially freeing.
This is what I see when she does not:
She bypasses to sadness, nurtures her wounds and melancholy, and depression becomes a way of being.
She masquerades as the good girl, a step away from taking a stand or behaving cuttingly; only to return to her well-worn path of good girl things, accompanied by guilt.
She subverts her feminine, carrying her masculine as fencing, shocking the hand that reaches or wants to give, with unexpressed grief as her constant companion.
She may cycle between these.
All of these carry an unspoken need for permission to exist more fully. To exist within her anger as much as her kindness, her rage as much as her compassion.
Rage especially the nice ones, anger especially the pleasing ones.
There is no harm in this, only liberation. Anger is the indicator that your boundary has been crossed, that something has occurred which you did not consent to. Rage can be our indicator that there was a great violation, and we were not protected.
The current collective embracing of anger and rage as we watch parts of the world and human beings burn, polluted and exploited is the reclamation of this feminine wholeness (this is not exclusive to women). Where both love and anger are sacred and respected, equally able to inform us and move us into conscious action.
“In her instinctual psyche, a woman has the power, when provoked, to be angry in a mindful way-and that is powerful. Anger is one of her innate ways to begin to reach out to create and preserve the balances that she holds dear, all that she truly loves. It is both her right, and at certain times and in certain circumstances a moral duty.” Clarissa Pinkola Estes (Women Who Run With the Wolves)
To anger and to rage means to fully enter the breadth and depth of your life and own all parts of yourself. There cannot be true healing without it.
Free yourself dear feminine, so you and our daughters can witness, taste, smell, feel and touch wholeness.